Hi from Lady Lou,
I am so thrilled to have my dear friend, Karenbeth Glunz, as a 'guest blogger!' I have known Karenbeth for over 20 years and think the world of her. Today she is sharing with us about 'Response - Ability.' It is a whole different approach to how we treat ourselves.
The Gift of Response-Ability
Written by Karenbeth Glunz
The gift you can give yourself each day is shifting from respons-i-bility (with the “i”) to Response-Ability. Responsibility with the “i” can frequently give permission to the “critical” part of you to throw a tirade. The job of your “critic” is simply to criticize. The critic is sometimes trying to be helpful. Unfortunately, all self- criticism is self-abuse. Isn’t that radical? One of my least favorite terms is “constructive” criticism. There is no such thing. All criticism is destructive. That is the reason that “responsibility” with the “i” is a shame and blame festival for our critic. Remember Julie Robert’s character in the movie Pretty Woman saying …"It’s easier to remember the bad things that are said about you." This doesn’t mean that we are perfect and may desire to make some changes. It does mean however that taking Response-Ability gives us the knowledge that we are “Able” to change in Response to that desire. There is a basic parenting tenet that states “Where did we ever get the notion that to have our children behave better, we have to make them feel worse.” The same is true for us! Why do we think that we have to feel bad about ourselves (criticism) in order create changes? The best way to inspire yourself to superior performance is to accept and allow everything that you do and are being, with an attitude of wholehearted support. This includes mistakes as well as successes. It means removing the language of “should, must, have to, need to” and substituting “get to”. Feel the difference when you say…”I need to go to the store.” versus “I get to go to the store”. “I should clean my house.” versus “I get to clean my house”. Doesn’t “get to” give the feeling of opportunity rather than drudgery? Lastly, remembering that the Universe always conspires on our behalf and every moment of our life is happening “FOR” us (response-able) rather than “to” us (victim).
As an action of Response-Ability, are you willing to write out this statement and then sign and date it?
I agree to cancel all criticism of myself and others. I am willing to support myself wholeheartedly and accept/love myself unconditionally. Yea Rah Sis Boom Bah!” Signature _________________________Date _______________
You 'get to' put this signed contract on your mirror or refrigerator and read it every day for 21 days.
Kudos to Karenbeth Glunz!
THANK YOU, Karen Beth! What you have written makes good sense to me. What about those of you reading this? I feel the world would be a far better place without all the 'shame and blame.' I have already written out this statement and put it on my fridge, bathroom mirror, and my computer! I am ready and I accept the GIFT OF RESPONSE-ABILITY.
Here are Karenbeth's credentials and a couple of photos of her.
Karenbeth Glunz is a holistic teacher, author, and a mentor who partners with Spirit, body, and mind. Karenbeth had to learn to walk again after debilitating health challenges arose prompting her to engage in years of discovery and recovery. Degreed in communications/psychology, Karenbeth is an expert in how to use conscious energy in relationships. She helps people (actors, lawyers, speakers) overcome stage-fright, and business entrepreneurs to market and realize their dreams. She published her first e-book on Amazon - Let Your Children Potty Train Themselves. Her website is www.karenbethglunz.com, and email - email@example.com.
Bye for now!
Lady Lou, The Baby Boomer Babe
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